The official engagement is an event now fallen into disuse, increasingly replaced by a simple lunch, in which the parents of the boyfriends meet with their children to decide their good. It’s still an important moment, to use to get to know, accept and imagine yourself as a new and big family.
First meeting (obligatory)
The first meeting always takes place at the home of the girlfriend’s family, where the future groom will go with his family.
The young man never shows up empty-handed, always bringing a gift to future in-laws: the most elegant gift for the mother of the girlfriend will always be the bouquet of flowers, sent home in advance.
In the first meeting the mother of the girlfriend will enjoy, by the boyfriend, of maximum respect and attention: remember that she will play the role of hostess during the wedding.
If the event includes a dinner, the arrangement at the table provides that the two boyfriends are seated in the place of honor, one next to the other, with her to the right of him.
The young man, on this occasion, will give the girl the engagement ring.
Lunch may include the presence of a few family members or close friends.
The tips of the wise owl
The first meeting between the two families is particularly significant for etiquette; on this occasion, in fact:
The event is organized by the mother of the bride, who will play the role of hostess on the day of the wedding.
The delivery of the engagement ring takes place, the first important ring of a woman and the second in order of importance after the wedding ring.
This meeting is formal in all respects and must include a seated lunch, preceded by an aperitif in the living room. The arrangement at the table is strict, so placeholders are recommended.
Second meeting (optional)
The second meeting takes place at the home of the boyfriend’s family, where the boy’s family return the first invitation.
The girl will never show up empty-handed, always bringing a gift to future in-laws: the most elegant gift for the mother of the boyfriend will still be the bouquet of flowers, sent home in advance.
The girlfriend will return the gift of the engagement ring, giving the boyfriend a precious object.
If the event includes a dinner, the arrangement at the table provides that the two boyfriends are still sitting in the place of honor, one next to the other, with her to the left of him.
Lunch may include the presence of a few family members or close friends.
The tips of the wise owl
The girlfriend, in buying the gift for the young, keep in mind that the only accessories granted to the man by etiquette are the faith and the watch; cufflinks and the tie clip are also allowed, but they should not be too precious.
Reception (mowing)
The reception is an opportunity to share the promise of marriage outside of friendships and close relatives.
The invitation
The reception is an opportunity to share the promise of marriage outside of friendships and close relatives.
The invitation takes place with written participation, containing the announcement ticket and the invitation card to the reception. As with all formal invitations, a reply will be required.
The participants at the reception are not obliged to make a gift, as it is assumed that they will soon receive the invitation to the wedding; the etiquette recommends, however, to send flowers in advance to the betrothed.
If the event involves a seated dinner, the arrangement at the table will see the two boyfriends seated in the place of honor, one next to the other, with her to the left of him.
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